Thursday
Evening Bible Study
August
21, 2008
Introduction
We have seen Paul present the case that man is not made right before God
through his own deeds or the keeping of the law, but simply through faith. Our salvation is not a matter of something
we’ve earned, it is a “grace”, a free, undeserved, gift from God. All we do is trust Him to receive it.
But as Paul talks about “grace”, he realizes that the concept of “grace”
can be horribly abused. People can think
that God’s grace means that we can take advantage of God’s kindness by living
any kind of life we wish. People can
think that “grace” means we go on living like we always used to live.
Paul has been making a case that “grace” changes a person. When a person comes into a personal relationship
with Jesus Christ, fundamental changes begin to take place at the very core of
their being.
Being united with Christ means that we His death and resurrection affect
our lives. We have somehow become “dead”
to sin and “alive” to God.
Paul now goes on to explore more of this concept.
:1-6 Becoming freed from the Law
:1 Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to those who know the law),
that the law has dominion over a man as long as he lives?
to those who know the law – Paul is going to talk about marriage laws,
something that all of his readers know about, whether they are Jew or Gentile.
has dominion
– kurieuo – to be lord of, to rule,
have dominion over; to exercise influence upon, to have power over
This is the same word used back in 6:14 –
(Rom
6:14 NKJV) For sin shall not have dominion over you, for you are not
under law but under grace.
Paul is going to talk about the believer’s relationship with the Law from a
new perspective. He’s going to use
marriage as an illustration of how we are to relate to the Law.
:2 For the woman who has a husband is bound by the law to her husband as
long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the law of her
husband.
the woman – gune
– a woman of any age; a wife
who has a
husband – hupandros (“under” +
“man”) – under i.e. subject to a man: married
is bound
– deo – to bind tie, fasten; to bind,
put under obligation, of the law, duty etc.
released
– katargeo – to render idle, inoperative;
to deprive of force, influence; to be severed from, loosed from any one
This word was used back in:
(Rom 6:6
NKJV) knowing this, that our old man was
crucified with Him, that the body of sin might
be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin.
Our identifying with the death of Christ rendered our own sin nature
ineffective, inoperative.
When a woman’s husband dies, the law binding her to her husband becomes
ineffective or inoperative.
:3 So then if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will
be called an adulteress;
marries
– ginomai – to become, i.e. to come
into existence; to be made, finished; of miracles, to be performed, wrought
This isn’t the typical word used for marriage (gameo), but it is clearly speaking of marriage.
We could
translate this, “if while her lives she becomes to another man …”
will be called
– chrematizo – to transact business;
to assume or take to one’s self a name from one’s public business; to receive a
name or title
The person in town who was a baker became known as “Mr. Baker”. The fellow who made horseshoes, fixed wagons,
and made things out of iron was the blacksmith, known as “Mr. Smith”. The guy that made clothes became known as
“Mr. Taylor”. The family that lived in the field where the
roses grew became known as the “Roosevelt” family (Dutch name).
Here, the woman
who commits adultery is known as “Adulteress”.
Paul is saying that if a woman leaves her husband while he’s still alive,
and marries another man, she becomes an adulteress.
A woman who marries another man while her first husband is still alive has
“changed occupations”, she gets a new business card. Her card no longer reads “married woman”, but
reads, “adulteress”.
an adulteress –moichalis
– an adulteress
Lesson
Divorce and Remarriage.
The point in this verse is not to teach on divorce and remarriage. The point here is to teach on being released
from an obligation like marriage through death.
Because our society doesn’t have a great view of God’s intended permanence
of marriage, our reaction to this passage might be, “so what?”
Paul’s point is to teach on how we are released from our obligation to the
Law, but while he’s using this as a lesson, we ought to make sure we have the
right idea about the subject.
We don’t seem to take divorce too seriously anymore.
Today when any couple get married, statistics are they have a 50/50 chance
of staying married.
The
divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The
divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The
divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%
Our own church has lots of folks who know the pain of divorce.
Some are “victims” of divorce – they didn’t have a choice
in the matter.
Others are guilty of improper divorce.
In our society the concept of “No-fault divorce” is the law of the land.
“No-fault divorce” simply means that nobody is to blame,
leading to the idea that you can divorce your spouse for any reason you want.
I found it interesting that the concept of “no-fault
divorce” started in
1918, in Russia, by the Bolsheviks.
In
the U.S., “no-fault divorce” started in our own glorious revolutionary
state, California, on January 1, 1970.
I find it interesting that between 1965 and 1975, the rate
of divorce basically doubled.
The problem is that God doesn’t seem to recognize
“no-fault” divorce.
God does allow for divorce, but His reasons might be a
little different than the ones we are comfortable with.
My intention is not to condemn anyone who has been
divorced or is going through a divorce.
My intent is to make sure we know what God says about divorce.
We believe there are two acceptable, Biblical reasons for divorce and
remarriage.
Lesson
Reason for Divorce: Unfaithfulness
(Mat 19:3-9 NKJV) The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him,
and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just
any reason?"
The Pharisees were testing Jesus.
There was a prominent teaching at the time that said if you found anything displeasing in your wife, you
were allowed to divorce her. It sounds a
lot like today’s “irreconcilable differences” or “no-fault” divorce.
{4} And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that
He who made them at the beginning 'made them male and female,' {5} "and
said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to
his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? {6} "So then, they are no
longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man
separate."
While the Pharisees would base their ideas on divorce with what Moses
wrote, Jesus takes his ideas back beyond that, back to the Garden of Eden.
God never intended for people to divorce once they were married. God’s original intentions were that a man and
a woman stay married their entire lives.
When a man and a woman enter into the bond of marriage, you are no
longer dealing with two individuals but a single, organic unity.
{7} They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a
certificate of divorce, and to put her away?"
They are referring to Moses’ instructions on divorce which said very
vaguely:
(Deu 24:1 NKJV) "When
a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she finds no favor in
his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her, and he writes her a
certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand, and sends her out of his house,
Even today there are different ideas among Christians as
to what this means. Some will take this
as narrow as to say that the only reason for divorce is if the wife was not a
virgin when the marriage took place.
{8} He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your
hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not
so.
Moses’ command came only as a concession to the hardness of a person’s
heart. Even in the case of marital
infidelity, divorce doesn’t have to be the only response. God, in his
“marriage” to His people has often taken us back after we’ve been unfaithful to
Him. But sometimes there comes a point
in a spouse’s life when their heart becomes so cold, so hard, that they can’t
take it anymore. And God understands
that. God allows divorce in this
instance, when there has been infidelity and the victim’s heart has become
hardened to the point where they can no longer stay with the other spouse.
{9} "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for
sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries
her who is divorced commits adultery."
Jesus gives an exception to divorce.
sexual
immorality (pornea) – sexual
activity outside the bounds of marriage.
If a spouse has been unfaithful, then divorce is allowed.
Lesson
Reason #2 - Abandonment
I have to preface this with saying that not all people accept this as a
valid reason for divorce. I do.
(1 Cor 7:10-15 NKJV) Now to the married I command, yet not I but
the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. {11} But even if she does
depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband
is not to divorce his wife.
Paul is talking about separation here.
In the case of a separation for any reason other than one acceptable for
divorce, the idea is to be reconciled, get it worked out.
I’ve seen separation work. I’ve seen
it be something like a wakeup call for the husband and wife. I’ve also seen it be disastrous. I’ve seen one spouse use it simply as a
prelude to divorce. It seems to me that
the longer the separation, the worse the chance for reconciliation. It becomes too tempting to just quit on the
marriage.
{12} But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a
wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not
divorce her. {13} And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is
willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. {14} For the unbelieving
husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by
the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
If you are living with an unbelieving spouse, you need to stay with them as
long as they want you to. Being
“unequally yoked” is not something you want to get into when you marry, but
once you’re married it is not a reason to dissolve the marriage. There is a sense in which you bring a measure
of protection and holiness to your family as the believer in the house.
{15} But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a
sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
Here is the possible reason for divorce.
If the unbeliever wants out of the marriage, you may allow them to
leave. But you shouldn’t be the one
pushing them out the door.
bondage – douloo – to make
a slave of, reduce to bondage
Not being “under bondage” might just mean that you can allow them to leave,
but it seems to me the point is not being bound to the person any more, you are
free to remarry.
Technically, the situation described is between a believer and an
unbeliever. I have heard some pastors
teach that even a Christian husband, when he wants out of a marriage, is acting
like an unbeliever, and when he leaves, the wife can allow him to. You need to let God speak to you on
that. I don’t endorse or stand against
it, I only mention it. You need to be
careful to do what God is leading you.
You also need to know that you will be accountable to God for what you
choose to do. Don’t make your decision
out of rebellion to God or selfishness on your own part.
Keep in mind the seriousness of divorce followed by remarriage. Divorce for the wrong reasons leads to you
committing adultery.
:3 but if her husband dies, she is free from that law, so that she is no
adulteress, though she has married another man.
As we get back to the verse, keep in mind that Paul’s intent is NOT to teach on divorce and remarriage,
but to simply use the illustration of a woman being freed from the obligation
of her marriage when her husband dies.
free from – eleutheros –
freeborn; free, exempt, unrestrained, not bound by an obligation
The freedom that the widow has from the law of being married to her husband
allows her to be married to another man.
The word here in Romans is simply the flip side of the word Paul uses in
1Corinthians:
(1 Cor 7:15 NKJV) But if the
unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But
God has called us to peace.
The point of being “free” or “not bound” is that you are free to be
remarried.
:4 Therefore, my brethren, you also have become dead to the law through the
body of Christ,
Paul is again referring to this mysterious thing we looked at back in Rom.
6:3, that we have “died” with Christ.
(Rom 6:3 NKJV)
Or do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus
were baptized into His death?
The focus in chapter six was to show that our death with Christ freed us
from the power of sin:
(Rom 6:7 NKJV) For he who
has died has been freed from sin.
Here, the focus is a little different.
We’ve not just been freed from the power of sin, but now also freed from
the Law.
Death brings
freedom from the Law
:4 that you may be married to
another; to Him who was raised from the dead,
Death allows
for remarriage
Using Paul’s analogy – we were married to the Law. We died with Christ. We are now free from the previous marriage so
we can remarry, this time to Christ.
But of course if you follow the analogy too close, you see that since we’re
the ones who died, and have been freed from the Law, that when we are now freed to marry a new
husband, being joined with Christ, that Jesus is marrying a dead bride. ;-) Kinda creepy, huh?
:4 that we should bear fruit to God.
we should bear fruit – karpophoreo
(“fruit” + “to bear”) – to bear fruit
One commentator (Robertson) says that Paul is changing the metaphor from
marriage to that of a tree.
I’m not sure he’s changing the metaphor.
A husband and wife also bear “fruit”.
They have kids.
Lesson
Bearing fruit
Jesus said,
(John 15:1-8 NKJV) "I am the true vine, and My Father is
the vinedresser. {2} "Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit He takes
away; and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit.
The vinedresser’s job is to get the vine to produce fruit. The only reason He tends the vineyard is to
produce fruit.
Pruning - One of the principles of good
gardening is to prune your plants. If
you have too many “suckers”, branches that are full of leaves but not flowers
or fruit, then they draw life and sap away from the good branches. In order to support the fruitful branches,
you have to prune and trim back.
Sometimes we get too involved in too many things. There’s not enough “life” or even time in our
lives to do everything. As a good
gardener, God will sometimes have to prune us back. Sometimes we can learn to do it ourselves.
{3} "You are already clean because of the word which I have
spoken to you.
The word for “clean” is the same one for “prunes”. They have been pruned through Jesus’ word to
them.
One of the best pruning shears in our lives is in God’s
Word. Keep reading. Stay pruned.
What has God been saying to you today in His word? Have you given Him a chance to speak to your
heart?
{4} "Abide in Me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear
fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, neither can you, unless you
abide in Me. {5} "I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in
Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.
Abiding: The
key to producing fruit in your life is staying connected to Jesus, staying in
that love/marriage relationship with Him.
There’s nothing mystical about “abiding”. It simply means to “stay put” or “remain” in
a place. You don’t need to wander
anywhere from Jesus. He has what you
need.
{6} "If anyone does not abide in Me, he is cast out as a
branch and is withered; and they gather them and throw them into the fire, and
they are burned. {7} "If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you
will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you. {8} "By this My
Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit; so you will be My disciples.
Word & Prayer: Part of what leads to
bearing fruit.
Bearing fruit is a part of being His disciple. Bearing much fruit.
What does it mean to “bear fruit”?
1) Inner change - qualities
that come from being with Jesus.
(Gal 5:22-23 NKJV) But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy,
peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, {23} gentleness,
self-control. Against such there is no law.
(Eph 5:9 NKJV) (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all
goodness, righteousness, and truth),
(Heb 12:11 NKJV) Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the
present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of
righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
2) Spiritual offspring.
This would seem a natural explanation of this verse in
context – a marriage that brings forth fruit – children.
Having an effect on others around you. Leading others to Jesus. Influencing others to know Him.
:5 For when we were in the flesh, the sinful passions which were aroused by
the law were at work in our members to bear fruit to death.
the flesh
– sarx – flesh, the human body; the
sin nature – that part of us that wants to rebel against God.
Which one??? It seems the idea of
our sin nature would make better sense.
(Rom
7:5 NLT) When we were controlled by our
old nature, sinful desires were at work within us…
passions – pathema
– that which one suffers or has suffered; of an inward state, an
affliction, passion
which were aroused by – literally, “which were through”
were at work – energeo (“energize”)
– to be operative, be at work, put forth power
“When we were
operating under the control of our sin nature, the sinful passions that came
through the law were energized in our bodies to bear the fruit of death”
When we live a life of evil passions, we bring forth death.
:6 But now we have been delivered from the law, having died to what we were
held by, so that we should serve in the newness of the Spirit and not in the
oldness of the letter.
have been delivered from – katargeo – to render idle, inoperative; to deprive of force,
influence; to be severed from, loosed from any one
Same word that was translated “released” in verse 2.
we were held by – katecho
– to hold fast, keep secure, keep firm possession of
we should
serve – douleuo – to be a slave,
serve, do service
We talked back in Romans 6 about the “bondservant”, the concept of a person who loves
his master and makes a choice to serve him for life. The wearing of an earring was a sign that a
person was a “bondservant”.
We make choices who we will serve.
But who do we choose? How do we
serve?
newness …
oldness – contrasting the “new” marriage with the “old” marriage,
contrasting our new relationship with Christ with the old relationship with the
Law.
Spirit …
letter – the same contrast, our relationship with Christ being one of “the
Spirit”, the old relationship with the Law being the “letter”.
Lesson
Motives for service
Why are you serving God?
Are you doing things for Him because of the Law, because of a sense of
legalism?
Do you serve
because of someone putting pressure on you?
I think that sometimes we mean well, but we can end up putting such a guilt
trip on each other as to what it means to serve the Lord.
Some people do need a little prodding now and then to serve the Lord.
But we need to learn to trust the Holy Spirit to teach us how to serve and
follow Jesus.
God wants the
direction of our service to come from inside, from the leading of the Holy
Spirit.