There’s an old saying, “I don’t get mad, I just get even.” I think that sometimes I’m a little guilty of both getting mad and getting even. I certainly don’t like it when somebody hurts me or hurts a loved one. I can come up with the best plans for revenge if you just give me a little time (cue the evil laugh). Sometimes, I just react without thinking and, afterwards, justify it by saying to myself, “Well, they deserved it for what they did to me…”
The problem with the whole “revenge” mentality is that it is a bit shortsighted. When I take things into my own hands, I’m assuming that God isn’t going to do anything about it. But what if God has plans that are different from my “revenge” plans? What if God has a way of working things out in the other person’s life that are more aimed at getting them to change than making them suffer? If I was the original offender, I know I’d wish that God dealt with me gently rather than painfully.
Choosing to not “get even” doesn’t mean that I necessarily stand in the way of the other person experiencing the consequences of their actions. Sometimes “consequences” are exactly what God ordered. But the consequences should not be about my “getting even”. Getting mad or getting even? I hope I learn to just say “no” to both.